In his book "Making Habits, Breaking Habits", Dr Jeremy Dean mentions three traps:โฃ
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๐. ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ค-๐๐ง๐-๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐ญ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ : Thatโs when we assume weโve failed if we donโt achieve perfection.โฃ
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๐. ๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ข๐ง๐ : Thatโs when we blame ourselves for random negative occurrences. โฃ
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๐. ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐ข๐ณ๐ข๐ง๐ : Thatโs when we assume the worst even with little evidence.โฃ
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Limiting beliefs and anxiety are very close to each other. Anxiety is our brain doing its best to avoid an outcome it imagined, or believed you already encountered. โฃ
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Limiting beliefs is you giving a pedestal to your insecurities.โฃ
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๐๐จ, ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐๐๐ง ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ?โฃ
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Start by questioning everything, ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐จ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ด๐บ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ด.โฃ
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Take the anxiety we all feel about our families who are far away because of the pandemic. Our heads are full of "what if... what if" and some of us can't sleep at night just thinking about all the worst case scenarios.โฃ
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Questions you can ask yourself:โฃ
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๐๐ช๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ง๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฌ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง?โฃ
If you don't know the answer, google that!โฃ
๐๐๐จ๐๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฌ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐ ๐ฌ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐?โฃ
Sometimes it's so absurd, and we don't see it until we question it.โฃ
๐๐ช๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐จ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง?โฃ
Think of at least two things you can do.โฃ
๐๐๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฑ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ง๐๐ฑ๐ญ ๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ฎ๐ญ๐๐ฌ? โฃ
If not, schedule that.โฃ
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๐๐ช๐ก๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ง ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง? ๐๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฏ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ข๐ญ?โฃ
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Get used to questioning your anxiety and give permission to yourself to be wrong.โฃ
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This is not easy, and it won't be solved in one try.โฃ
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๐ช๐ก๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ?โฃ
