Your Competence Became Your Assignment. That’s Not the Same as a Choice.
For eldest children and default leaders managing aging-parent care — on obligation-based identity, the invisible load, and what leading from choice actually requires. You didn’t raise your hand for this. There was no meeting. No conversation where the family…
You’re Still in There. But You’ve Been Holding So Much, You’ve Forgotten Where You End.
Live-In Caregiver Support: Finding Internal Space When External Space Doesn’t Exist It happened slowly. That’s the thing no one warns you about. First, the guest bedroom became their room. Then the routines were reorganized around their schedule….
Read moreResentment isn’t a failure of love. It’s what happens when giving has consistently outpaced receiving
— and no one, including you, has been keeping track.
You Don’t Dread Your Parent. You Dread What You Become When You Get There.
For same-city caregivers managing aging parents while running their own lives — on caregiver resentment, body cost, and what sustainable presence actually requires. You know the drive. You’ve taken it 40 times in the last year. And somewhere around the halfway…
Your Body Is Here. Your Nervous System Never Left.
For NRI caregivers and long-distance adult children caring for aging parents — this is what chronic vigilance actually costs, and how grounded responsibility becomes possible. It is 7:14 in the morning in Toronto. You are making coffee. The kids need lunches. There is…
Coping with the pandemic
We know well by now that we are not prone to dealing well with prolonged uncertainty. And yet, despite 2.5 years of it, we still find ourselves struggling. For me, the last 2.5 years have been quite life-changing, as I assume it has been for many of us. A significant…
3 Ways to Simplify Your Life
If you find you are too busy to take a day off, you are heading for burnout. If you are successful, but cannot find time to take care of your own needs and happiness, you might end up angry and bitter with the rest of the world because nobody gets you and your drive…